According to traditional custom, Wedding Invitations are to be issued by the parents of the bride; or by a surviving parent.
These days, brides and grooms are quickly changing this tradition and taking the task upon themselves and choosing to work with their
own guest lists.
Invitations and announcements are folded with the printed surface on the
outside except for contemporary invitations which are folded with the
printed surface on the inside. Contemporary invitations usually have a
design or caption on the outside.
Two envelopes are used with wedding invitations and announcements. The
invitation or announcement and accompanying cards (reception and response
cards, etc.) are first enclosed in an inner envelope which has no glue on
the flap. Guests´ names are written on the front of the inner envelope
(titles and last names only - no address). Example " Mr. and Mrs. Smith
". The invitation or announcement is inserted into the inner envelope
folded edge first. The inner envelope is then placed within the outer envelope with its flap facing the front of the outer envelope. The outer envelope is addressed for mailing. Envelopes should always be written out by hand.
As a general rule, abbreviations are avoided. The exceptions are long
established contractions such as "Mr.", "Mrs." or "
Jr.". House numbers
are written in figures, while numbered streets are usually written out.
Addresses of churches, clubs or public buildings are usually omitted because
such addresses are considered superfluous. However, a street address may be
shown below the name of the church or club if such an address is considered
necessary for better direction.
Correct Social Titles for Men
The correct social title for a man, the groom, the one issuing
the invitations, or an invited guest, is "Mr." with the exception
of: 1) reverend, 2) doctor, 3) judge, 4) justice.
Correct Social Titles for Women
If the bride is a doctor of medicine or dentistry, she does not use her title
when the invitation is being issued by her parents. If, however, the invitation
is being issued by the bride and groom or a guardian, the bride´s name is
given as "Doctor Susan Howard".
If the bride has a doctorate degree and uses her title professionally, she
has the option of calling herself "Ms.", "Miss" or "
Doctor" if she is issuing her own invitations.
When addressing an invitation to a married woman with a title, it is tradition
to use her married name. If, however, she prefers her professional title or
has retained her maiden name, you would put the wife´s name above the husband´s
on the outer envelope. The inner envelope would carry the couple´s married
name, "Mr. and Mrs. Andrews".
If the bride will be retaining her maiden name after the marriage, an at home
card announcing this would be included with the invitation or announcement.
The wording might be: "Susan Howard, Charles Bedford, at home...". This
situation is never handled in the invitation wording itself.